A few months ago I woke up early one morning and I realized that my oldest was in kindergarten, and my youngest could be in preschool this year. I realized that in three years, both of my kids will be in school full time! That meant that I might be able to get a full time job at the library where I currently work part time!
I found myself on a college website (for the fifth time in the past 5 1/2 years) and realized that if I took two classes every semester for those next three years, I would have my bachelors degree in time to land myself that perfect full time job!
Before I knew it, I had all of my transcripts ready to transfer, registration paperwork filled out, FAFSA information ready...
THIS WAS HAPPENING!!!
In the next three months I talked with an academic adviser, registered for classes, got my work schedule changed so that I could fit in my classes, found a nanny to help during the hours I would be gone at school, started writing more to get myself back in the school mode, talked to people who had finished in my degree; pretty much everything I could think to do to prepare myself.
I WAS TOTALLY READY!!
Well, two weeks ago I was printing out the new schedule to put on the fridge so my kids would be able to prepare for what it was going to be like. I colored in "Mom at work time" orange, the "kids at school" time blue and "nanny time" in purple.
The purple squares took up most of the page.
I tried taking deep breaths, reminding myself that a getting a college degree is one of those things that you will never regret doing.
I told myself that this was the best thing for me and my kids, that they would get used to the new schedule and they would learn important lessons about sacrifice for learning.
It didn't matter what I said though. I ended up bawling for the next hour and a half.
I had not once doubted my decision to go back to school.
I was less than three weeks away from my first day, and NOW I was having doubts!
We told the kids that mom needed help making a big decision.
We asked them to help us pray for the right answer, and pray we did.
Well, after weeks of praying, several long discussions with my husband, and about ten gallons of tears, I finally made my decision last night.
I am putting my education on hold, yet again, so that I can be there for my kids.
I wanted to feel angry and upset. I wanted to shake my fist and yell into the heavens
"Why would you dangle this amazing opportunity, and provide everything I need
to make this dream a reality, if you didn't want it for me?"
I didn't though. I felt light. I felt like I had made the right decision.
We decided that we would tell the kids for Christmas.
I was excited to tell them that not only was I not going to be going to school, but I would be home even more because I had already had my work schedule changed.
This morning my 5 year old crawled into bed with me at 6 am and instead of the cranky, tired mom I have been lately, I was thrilled. We snuggled and talked and shared a really special moment.
Then my three year old woke up and was a REAL PAIN in the butt.
He was ornery and demanding, whiny and stubborn.
His attitude immediately caught on and before we knew it my daughter and I had both turned into little monsters.
One hour into my day and I hated myself, hated being a mom, hated how much I hated being a mom, and hated that I had just decided to put something so precious to me aside so that I could do this MORE!
Today, I do feel angry and upset. I do want to shake my fist at the heavens and say "Why?!"
But even though I want to spit and curse, I still don't feel right about going to school yet.
I still feel like this is what Heavenly Father wants me to do.
I wish it wasn't, but it just is.
So, I guess this is where I put my faith in my Heavenly Father.
I put my life in His hands and just PRAY that I don't feel like this every day.